Even if it doesn’t necessarily fit with the advice of others. What’s working? What needs to change? I so much appreciate her advice that if something was working for you and it’s safe for your baby, don’t change it. Instead, focus on what you and your family need. She encourages parents to stop comparing themselves, their babies, and their lives to others. Instead, Pantley offers a lot of ideas and gentle solutions. Obviously that sounds tempting but there really is no such thing and so when you “fail” at those other ideas, it’s easy to end up feeling like you’ve failed as a parent. What I appreciated about Pantley’s book at the time and in the months to come when I dipped back into it for advice was that she didn’t promise easy fixes or a one-size-fits-all solutions. (Which demonstrates that parents around the world are struggling with getting their children to sleep!) This new edition is updated and expanded by the author. Pantley’s original No-Cry Sleep Solution was first published 17 years ago and has been translated into 27 different languages.

(I’ll add that it’s also hard to be a good spouse!) My brother once told me that the hardest time to be a good parent is three o’clock in the morning and it is painfully true. It put a strain on almost every part of our lives for a long time. At the time, Pearl was a good sleeper but shortly thereafter she entered an almost year-long period where she struggled to fall asleep. I first read Elizabeth Pantley’s No-Cry Sleep Solution for Preschoolersalmost four years ago, when my firstborn was about sixteen-months old. There are countless books and theories and plans all about baby sleep and how to get your baby to sleep more.

Babies are labelled “good” or not based on their sleep habits. It’s one of the most important things to parents, especially parents of newborns. I received an Advance Edition of this book from the author in exchange for an honest review.

The no cry sleep solution